the one that's not about a cocktail umbrella

Two nights in a row, Alice has insisted on going to bed with a cocktail umbrella in her hand.

Oh, hold on, that's not what this post is about.

Two weeks ago, I had a visitor.  A blog friend visitor.  Her name is Dera. You should be reading her blog.

She is a hoot and she's smart and she has great taste and she lives many states away.  She is... a blog friend.  And she visited me, like at my house, in real life.

I've been waiting to blog about this because, oh I don't know, you know how when you were young and you thought a boy liked you but you couldn't admit to liking him until you knew what he said about you to his friends first, or something like that?  I think I felt like that.  Except about blogging.  And a blogger.  I was selfishly hoping she'd blog about meeting me first, so I wouldn't feel dumb.  But I am grown-up lady and not a little girl and I'm going to go ahead and put this out there:

I loved her.  I knew I would love her, at least I was SURE I would, as sure as you can be when you've never met someone in person.  Yet still, I had a tiny panic attack when her car pulled in the driveway.  What if things were just different in real life?  What if she thought I was lame?  I barely had time to worry these worries before she jumped out of the car and ran inside, full of normalness and excitement.  She felt like a friend, like a friend I already knew. She sat in my living room and we talked and she hugged me and her husband joked around and asked me about my Fornasetti plates and her babies played house with my babies and they were only here for a few hours, but I have to think that this little thing we do on the internet where we write silly stories and decorate a space and tell the world who we are can be more than words and pictures.  It can bring people together.  People who would never have the chance to be friends or know each other, otherwise.

I love that.  And I love Dera.  You should be reading her blog.


  1. aww I love this.
    And I'm so jealous.
    Dera seems awesome.

    And so do you.

    Gosh. I wish I could hand out with both of you in your living room with our babies. Oh well, at least we have this.

  2. I love Dera's blog, too. And I'm happy for your happy visit. But still all I could think about while I read this is that it won't be too much longer before it's my turn to sit in your living room while the babies play house. And by house, I mean Mario. And I CAN NOT WAIT.

  3. How fun! I don't think I've ever been to Dera's blog, but she looks like a cute person to read, so I think I'll start. Hope you're doing well friend.

  4. Ok ok! I am now!

    I know just what you mean (remember when you first met me, and slept in my room!?) :)

    Also, what IS it with kids and cocktail umbrellas? You'd think they'd make them less sharp!


  5. As you know, because of you, I "met" Dera. But not in real life yet...

    Jeff had to go to Atlanta last week for business and went to dinner with Dera and Terry and the girls. They had burgers and Krispy Kreme milkshakes and I can't believe my husband got to meet one of my bloggy friends in real life, before I did.

    I love the ol' internet.
    And you.

  6. everything you said is sooo true. Glad you two girls got to meet. I can vouch for her awesomeness and her families awesomeness. Now we have to nail down our first meeting:}

  7. Lucky, lucky duck! I'd love to meet you and Dera both. Too bad Mississippi isn't exactly a destination spot. Then I might actually get to meet some cool bloggers.

  8. Man, my heart is about to burst right out of my chest. And I'm about to blog about all ya'll right now. Love to my virtual besties.

  9. Strangely, I now want to sleep with a cocktail umbrella in my hand...

    and I also want to hang out in your living room.

  10. I am so glad that I clicked through from my reader. :) I was about to go to bed, and thought -- Ok, one more.

    I love how you put it. And I just clicked over from another friend's blog - a friend who I have actually gotten to meet in person and who now is my real live friend.

    Exactly what you said. <3


  11. Yes, I love that the blogosphere brings people together. It's one of my favorite things about blogging, actually. I have so many "blog friendships" - and...they are REAL friendships.