4.14.2011

i almost included a singing-along video but wimped out

There are times when I should probably cry but I don't.  Maybe I cried too much as a teenager or I've cried too much in the last couple of years or I don't know. My crying reflex response to sad things has just lost its snap.  It's broken-in now, kind of tired and not so easily impressed.

Unsorted emotions, however, still surprise me and come out as tears.  This is sometimes embarrassing.  Parades do me in.  Little kids doing cute little kid things.  Shared experiences, with lots of people all cheering for the same thing.  Something about the big-ness of all of this, or something,

Watching "Tangled" with my kids on Saturday night I cried a stupid amount. I cried when the Disney Castle came on the screen and I cried during the opening song and I cried at the paper lanterns and the boat and the romance and the singing and the ending. I did.  Something about the film made me feel like a little girl and also like a mom and there was an odd but surprisingly pleasant dissonance there that came out as tears. It was the first Disney movie my kids have really made it all the way through.  And we watched it again the next day, and then again the next day, singing along and laughing.  They really loved it.  I kinda loved it too.  Okay, whatever, so I loved it.

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(photo not really related to the post, just cute)

26 comments:

  1. you are a doll. and i'm sort of complete opposite with the crying thing-- tears just come out a lot with me, with anything. and i'm glad to know i'm not the only one that cries during a disney movie, because of reasons like you said. audrey went to see Tangled in the movie theaters with Lydia a couple of months ago. it was the first time for the theater for her. i told lydia to text me b/c she probably won't last the whole movie sitting still and being quiet. well, she lasted. and loved it. i haven't seen the movie yet, but i requested gramps to get it for her (uh, me) for easter.

    also? when this weather gets consistently nice i'm coming up there so we can visit and the kids can frolick outside. :)

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  2. Everything makes me cry...well almost everything. But the Disney thing? I totally get it. Evie and I had our first Cinderella moment a few weeks ago. She's only 2 and she sat through the whole thing, eyes bugging out of her head. See, I've always sung the opening song to her..you know "a dream is a wish your heart makes..." And when she heard it come from the t.v. she was shocked. Now she strokes my face when I sing and says "beautiful song,mommy" and I melt.

    The other day, she got to dance with minnie at a party...face glowing the whole time and she kept repeating "Minnie, you dancing?" Tears my friend...serious tears.

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  3. I cry all of the time. For no reason. At commercials, movies, TV shows, when I think of something happy, sad, exciting, or when there is just too much emotion and I don't know of any other way to express it. It is just what I do.

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  4. I cry at events too, I believe for the same reason the "bigness" of it all. Which is a little embarrassing when you're at a football game and your crying when the Blue Angels fly overhead. I also cry at random kids things, like seeing my son perform at school or church, chokes me up everytime.

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  5. Beautiful photo. Do you frame any photos you take? That would be an excellent candidate.

    One of my older boys cried at the end of Tangled. I get it. There are universals in life.

    I took my teenager and her bff to Soul Surfer this past weekend and I cried through the whole movie---because I knew what was coming, and then it came, and then she struggled, and then she triumphed. All legit reasons to honk into tissues and ruin mascara.

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  6. First half, me too. Second half, we're watching Tangled tomorrow night for "family movie night". I may be in trouble... :P

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  7. We haven't seen it yet...but the crying is stirred up in me these days unlike when I was younger. I kind of like it though. It reminds me of my own vulnerability when all day long I'm the little-old-master-of-our domain.
    P.S. When i read you're title I was bummed. You posted a video of you singing a christmas song that i don't even know if I'd ever heard before and a few weeks later I was in Staples grabbing a few stocking stuffers, everyone in the car impatiently waiting, and that same song came on in there. The biggest smile hit me. I even felt teary. It was as if I could hear you're voice singing it. It moved me. I never did go back to that post (or maybe i did), so now I told you. I'm a big fan of your singing now. :)

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  8. I cried at least twice while watching Tangled in the theater with my not-quite-boyfriend. I felt like such a silly girl. (We're dating now.)

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  9. I keep rereading this post and not knowing what to say. It strikes me and I relate to it, somehow...I think sometimes if I don't cry or don't have time to sort through my emotions, there is a wellspring of stuff there which overflows when it finds some odd little moment that it can slip through (generally in the form of suuuuuper weepiness during bad romantic comedies).

    Also, unlike when I was of a different era, my crying often stops and I laugh and say "ok, that's enough" and just feel very done crying. Which may be because the freeness of my tears is directly related to tiredness so it feels a bit like tired person melodrama.

    That picture is so cute. So so so sweet.

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  10. I do that too. Cry when I think I shouldn't, don't cry when I probably should. I blame it on the hormones :)

    I haven't seen tangled yet, I heard it was great!

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  11. I'm about 90% more likely to cry at a movie than at a tragedy in my real life. I have no explanation for this. Honestly, I don't really want one.
    But I can say with certainty that Tangled is a wonderful movie, easily Disney's best since the long lost 90s.

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  12. I cry at the drop of a hat too. You should've seen me when we took the kids to Disney on ice. When Otto jumped up and down on his chair after seeing Woody? Yea, waterworks.

    And I got teased mercilessly after being spotted crying during "Tangled" in the theater.

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  13. I really loved Tangled, too. We went to see it as a family for my birthday (for the record, I turned 32). And it made me feel all the same things - in touch with my inner little girl. I was so delighted by it, loved the music, loved the ART, loved it all around! Plus it was funny! And Thomas would randomly yell "RAPUNZEL!" for weeks afterward. So funny.

    I am a huge crier. I cry at TV shows, movies, when other people cry, and sometimes when I read. Weirdly, though, when I was pregnant, I didn't cry. I was less emotional than I am in normally!

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  14. I loved it, too. And I seem to have lost my old capacity for tears.

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  15. i am the same way!! i always cry during the national anthem - all the people standing, hand over heart, singing. chillbumps.

    and yes, i cried during tangled. while emma sat and ate her popcorn, totally oblivious.

    love this post. xo

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  16. I love you. I'm crying about your post right now. Just a bit.

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  17. i'm an awkward non-cryer. like, i feel like i should cry but i really just never do. i'm tough or repressed or something.

    the flip side of that is that if the floodgates DO burst open hold onto your butts, it'll be a real gusher.

    i have to admit though, strange random things about motherhood bring tears to my eyes. the disney opening castle is one of them.

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  18. As Audra said, while we were watching this movie, "this part is just making my eyes water, momma."

    True.

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  19. I totally have lost my crying reflex too. I think I actually cry more at happy things now than sad things. There are just not enough tears in this world for the sad things I think. But yeah, there is something about those big shared experiences. . . the national anthem at baseball games. fourth of july fireworks. watching older couples dance at weddings. Gets me every time.

    Something about being a mom has also made me feel more like a little kid than I ever did before, so I understand that "surprisingly pleasant dissonance." That's a beautiful way of putting it.

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  20. We're watching Tangled as I write this, and it's the first movie my girls have truly, truly loved. They were into the Toy Story movies for months -- wanted to watch them all the time, all of that -- but they didn't get very into the story. This movie? They have favorite parts and sing the songs when it's not on and my 4-year-old wanted me to braid a blanket into her blonde hair so she could pretend her hair went down to her feet. This movie is pretty magical, and I get teared up at the end every single time. The emotion on the king and queen's faces! It does me right in.

    I also started to cry several times when we were at Disney World. I felt ridiculous, but it was as though I was seeing all the magic through my girls' eyes and it just DESTROYED ME.

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  21. I loved it too and cried too.

    Yesterday we took the boys to Rio and I cried during a preview.

    My crying is very random these days, not much over big things but the catching-off-guard kind too.

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  22. Yes, that photo is cute. And also I am the same way. I don't remember crying enough when I was younger either, I am the ultimate in-appropriate non-cryer. And of course a church giggler in the most WRONG of situations.

    But same here. Just THINKING about parades made me tear up.

    Steph

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  23. erin, you are quite possibly the sweetest, most amazing mama alive. i aspire to be as wonderful a mother and human as you are. now, i cry as much as you do. i cry at big events, even at sporting events if there's a big comeback or something. i think it's all that emotion in one place. i cry at disney movies, i cry at sappy commercials. i think it's a good thing.

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  24. You totally should have included a video. Your voice is amazing, you know. (You DO know, right?).

    P.S. Now I want to see "Tangled" more than ever.

    stephanie@metropolitanmama.net

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  25. Aw, we just watched Tangled last night and I loved it too. And K (18 months) said "WOW!!!" when the Disney castle came up. :D

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